Everyone is _____ in this economy.
No one is ______ right now.
I’m always _______ and it’s overwhelming.
I never ______ even though I should.
I’ve been hearing a lot of variations on these themes from business owners lately, and y’know what they all have in common?
Absolutes.
Everyone/no one…always/never...
Do you ever slip into this black-and-white thinking?
If so, are you up for a challenge?
It’s based on 1 of the 4 key reasons I teach my clients to avoid absolutes in their Visions:
Words Matter
The words you use form the narratives you create about yourself, about others, and about the world around you.
The more you repeat those narratives through your internal dialogue and conversations with others, the more your beliefs around them solidify.
And the more those beliefs solidify the more you find evidence to prove those beliefs are true (even if they're not).
The result?
You go down a rabbit hole that makes you feel even more stressed, anxious, behind, and alone.
So here’s my challenge:
Next time you find yourself thinking or talking about things in absolutes, use it as an opportunity to put that black and white thinking to the test:
Is truly everyone cutting budgets in this economy, or are some people doing that? (Which is a reminder that there are also some people who are investing more right now.)
Are you truly always behind or are you sometimes behind (which is a reminder that sometimes you’re also on top of the ball.)
Once you start playing in the gray more, you’ll find that instead of going down rabbit holes, you’ll feel more grounded, more at ease, more hopeful and more connected to others who are experiencing, and overcoming, the same challenges you’re facing.
Ready to join me in accepting this challenge?
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